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snowflake challenge #3
In your own space, talk about a fannish opinion you hold that has changed over time.
OMG FRIENDS. I tried to write a post about how my holier-than-thou attitude has changed and it ended up being a long 'I'm so much better than THESE fans' post! I guess I have a ways to go.
Oopsie.
Starting over:
I wasn't always kind. I used to bash ships or characters. I still do somewhat but only among likeminded people or clearly tagged and I never do it TO FANS like 'omg you suck because you like X'. I used to do that. It's been awhile but the line was very blurry for me.
I used to have a lot of incorrect stances and I was loud about it. I don't even remember what half of those opinions were. I feel bad for souring anyone's fannish enjoyment. I wasn't always a positive ray of sunshine! I'm still not but I try. I used to join communities that were kinda close-knit but negative toward others. So-called 'elite' communities for art. Or for 'better' fanfiction. But I always ended up burned because sooner or later those groups would combust as we turned on each other. There's only so much negativity you can share before every interaction becomes catty and mean.
As I've gotten more (*ahem*) mature, I've learned to seek out positivity in fandom, and to curate my experience. I always want people to like me, so sometimes I do get dragged into negativity still. But I TRY to stay away from it.
Wow, this one really is a CHALLENGE.
OMG FRIENDS. I tried to write a post about how my holier-than-thou attitude has changed and it ended up being a long 'I'm so much better than THESE fans' post! I guess I have a ways to go.
Oopsie.
Starting over:
I wasn't always kind. I used to bash ships or characters. I still do somewhat but only among likeminded people or clearly tagged and I never do it TO FANS like 'omg you suck because you like X'. I used to do that. It's been awhile but the line was very blurry for me.
I used to have a lot of incorrect stances and I was loud about it. I don't even remember what half of those opinions were. I feel bad for souring anyone's fannish enjoyment. I wasn't always a positive ray of sunshine! I'm still not but I try. I used to join communities that were kinda close-knit but negative toward others. So-called 'elite' communities for art. Or for 'better' fanfiction. But I always ended up burned because sooner or later those groups would combust as we turned on each other. There's only so much negativity you can share before every interaction becomes catty and mean.
As I've gotten more (*ahem*) mature, I've learned to seek out positivity in fandom, and to curate my experience. I always want people to like me, so sometimes I do get dragged into negativity still. But I TRY to stay away from it.
Wow, this one really is a CHALLENGE.
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Of course sometimes there are things that make us angry or upset or whatever (Tumblr knows I have a couple of ships I irrationally dislike blacklisted, LOL) but as long as we're not attacking people for it or, worse, basing our fun on making them feel miserable, that's quite the step up. Nobody is perfect and no one can really stand being all heart emojis all the time (nor should we have to) but just aiming to be kinder and more understanding is a lot already! <3
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