ugh

[green]

First thing this morning, my ex called to say he's still sick and can't bring Zach.

So I was all sad about not seeing my son for his holiday break.

Now, it looks like my ex is going to bring him, but on Monday, and he's going to drive the whole way here BUT I have to pay for his gas AND a hotel for him to stay in. Because the drive is so long. I can't really afford it, but it's the only way to see my son.

My PayPal address is anthony.melissa AT rocketmail DOT com. I don't expect your help, but I do need a bit now. So if you can help and want to, please do.

https://ko-fi.com/greenie

Comments

[mecurtin]

I dropped a little in the hat. I hope you have a good holiday!

[green]

Thank you! It's much appreciated. <3

[shadowhive]

Oh no, I’m so sorry you’re having all these issues :( I hope you do get to see him.

I’m just having something to eat now but I’ll see if I can send a little when I’m done 💜

[green]

Thank you. <3

[shadowhive]

It’s ok💜 I hope things work out *hugs you much*

[shipperslist]

...I mean, I thought my ex was an asshole but that's a whole new lever of douche right there. What a turd!

[green]

He is. I mean, this is pretty low caliber for him though. He's been MUCH doucheier in the past lol

[waketosleep]

I have literally practiced family law now and I still can't get over how shitty some exes get over parental access time. The games that get played to keep a kid from seeing their other parent for like, a weekend. Or Christmas. Imagine being that fucking petty. (Speaking of petty, in your shoes I'd be telling my ex that the deal he'd be getting is HALF the gas paid for, since the other half was his responsibility in the parenting agreement anyway and it's his fault he decided he couldn't make the shorter trip, if it's anyone's. But I'm pretty much always spoiling for a fight.... Sounds like you are unfortunately not the one with the power in this dynamic so I don't blame you if you don't think poking the bear is worth the risk. I LIVE FOR BEAR-POKING, it's a problem.)

I hope you get to spend time with Zach and that you both very much enjoy it. I also hope your ex gets coal in his stocking. And cold medicine, since he's apparently at death's door lol. How long is the drive anyway, that he was acting like he was too sick to make half of it and then now is going to make all of it AND spend a night away from home?

[green]

It's about 7 or more hours the whole way.

I hope he gets coal, too. lol

Thank you.

[waketosleep]

One more year and Zach will be an adult and you can arrange quality time with him without your ex being entitled to interfere. So close!

I just skipped back in your journal a little to catch up on your personal news and was entertained by your recent post about Zach's political philosophy journey, lol. Sounds like he's got some eye-rolly and stereotypical ideas for an intellectual teenage boy but I'm heartened by the fact that he seems to be good at having a productive conversation about the topic with people who disagree with him. His comment that he respects how you stick to your views was adorable. I think that's also how you'll get through to him before he gets warped into one of those toxic idiots; he clearly looks up to you and respects you and if he can easily answer the question "what would Mom say?" then that will be a good compass for him as he keeps exploring these ideas and learning more about what's behind them. <3

[green]

Sounds like he's got some eye-rolly and stereotypical ideas for an intellectual teenage boy

haha yes. that's exactly it. he's so super smart and it makes me grind my teeth when he comes up with some of this stuff, but I'm hopeful. it does feel good that he respects me.

[waketosleep]

ALSO (hi, lawyer here, lol) since you are apparently looking for some nice counterpoints for Zach to think about and replace all the space The Fountainhead is probably now taking up in his brain, a solid grounding in the concept of the "rule of law" will help him contextualize all these different ideas. I'm sure you'd also find it interesting to learn more about, since it's the foundation of our democratic systems and all. It also has a very important link to the idea of access to justice, which is something that lawyers and legal academics are thinking about more and more these days. Here's a link with a good informational launchpad about the rule of law: https://worldjusticeproject.org/about-us/overview/what-rule-law.

[green]

Thank you so much! He read Atlas Shrugged first and now he IS reading the Fountainhead. Oh lordy.

[waketosleep]

If he takes the bait and wants to learn more then for sure aim him at the nearest college library resource to start reading some articles, but also feel free to hit me up and I'll dig through my collection of legal navel-gazing reading and see what else I've got for him/you to read on the subject. I'm also fine with questions about it and I do enjoy having discussions on these ideas, so don't be shy haha.

[green]

We shall see! :) Thank you.

[sperrywink]

I hope you now have a nice visit.

[green]

I hope so too! Thank you. <333

[alee_grrl]

So glad that you'll get to see your boy after all. I hope you have a lovely visit. <3

[green]

Thank you!

[cesperanza]

Mwah, Greenie! Check your paypal. xo --Ces

[green]

Ahhhhh thank you so much. <333