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[green]

posting this to my DW because I don't feel like being reblogged on Tumblr.

I think one of the things I'm feeling over the Neil Gaiman thing is grief. I gave my oldest son some of his works, and it was a thing I did for him on several birthdays and Christmases. Now I just... I don't know. Here was this act of love, wanting to share interests and art with my son, and it feels so gross now. Tainted. But then again that seems like I'm making it all about my relationship with my son and not the pain and trauma of the victims. So then I feel guilt.

Comments

[princessofgeeks]

Hoping you can sit with this as needed and then let it go. You had no way of knowing any of this at the time you shared those gifts with your son. The emotion that caused you to give your son a gift is in no way tainted.

Thinking of you.

[green]

Thank you.

[elayna]

I feel that in a psychic way you’re benefitting the victims by putting out into fannish spaces that you believe them. That must have been so hard for them, to come forward, and it must be such a relief that fandom isn’t just circling the wagons around him. I wouldn’t beat yourself up for honestly acknowledging that someone you admired has very much let you down. It’s a disappointment that needs to be processed and sharing is a way to work on that. *hugs*

[green]

*hugs* Thank you.

[goddess47]

Part of it is because it is so new. Once it's less fresh, it's easier to separate the creator from the work.

JK Rowling is an ass. She continues to be an ass. So I refuse to purchase anything that will send money her way. (Although I will watch the movies if they are on TV, that I have less control over.) But I still write HP fic, mostly in spite. I shred her canon, write my own new canon, fill the plot holes she left, and have her characters do things she would hate. I never stopped writing HP fic but it took me a long time to be able to verbalize why I still do it.

I miss the curmudgeon (Neil) that used to be on Tumblr but I'm glad he is (hopefully) out of circulation and cannot hurt anyone else. (And I hope his wife gets that lovely library of books he has in the basement, he doesn't deserve to keep them!) ::grin::

You're allowed your grief... you are also allowed to hope that the money you spent on those gifts are given to his victims as compensation!

[green]

*hug* You're so right. Thank you.

[lunabee34]

*hugs*

This is such a terrible situation, but you don't need to feel guilty. You had no way of knowing about his behavior.

[green]

thank you. *hug*

[alee_grrl]

*hugs* You are not alone is wrestling with this. The grief and guilt are definitely something I think a lot of us are feeling.

[green]

Thank you.

*hugs tight*